wondering why (or why not)

Have you ever listened to the podcast Heavyweight? It is described as “a podcast about turning points, finding answers to enduring questions and reckoning with the past.” I first listened to this podcast while sipping coffee in bed on a Sunday morning, my body sticky sweaty from the night’s slumber; something anyone who shares a bed with […]

A declaration to my past someones. A tribute to my lost loves.

A few years back, my heart was shattered. It was the second longer term relationship I had after my separation of 21 years. I think heartache is one of those things you experience in the moment where seconds feel like hours and there may be times where you feel as though you’ll never have enough […]

Too much, yet not enough

I’ve been writing love letters. Doesn’t that sound so incredibly beautiful, and curious? I wish these feelings on the folio were being gingerly typed on a green Smith Corona and he responding in his favourite ink and white blank sheets of hope. But instead, fingers on keys almost as quickly as the brain is devising […]

Living out loud – my weekend and the 7 Notes on Life

I don’t want this being another retrospective look on how different and difficult life has been since March 2020. We all know it has. But what I do want this to be is how the last two years has impacted our identity and how, as we all take our masks off to breathe again, we […]

Make a list… even if it’s one thing (A tribute to Candy Chang)

There are certain things in life you will never forget. It may be a feeling, a smell, a taste, the touch of an ex lover’s hand; all disguised in a memory or a moment from your past. For me, and my incredibly romantic attachment to everything, I don’t forget much. When I retell people around […]

It wasn’t for him; it was for me

I remember a few years back, celebrating my first Valentines alone, in over 22 years. While I had always had my group of close girlfriends around during this red, white and pink, commercialized holiday, with dinner parties, and costume, food and drink, there was something about the extra love in the air that always had […]

A lesson from my jade plants

I received a stem from my mom’s jade plant a year or so ago. She potted a shoot for each of her kids last Christmas: a single stem with one or two perfected glossy leaves, planted in a teenie terracotta container, rough and completely perfect for each of us to love and care for. What […]

Feeling sexy is nothing to be ashamed of…

I am obsessed with Amazon’s Original “American Playboy: The Hugh Hefner Story”. For anyone who knows me, sex is something I don’t shy away from. As I used to tell my then-single girlfriends, don’t ask me anything you’re not prepared to hear an honest answer about. Hef’s story is one of revolution, empowerment and keeping […]

“I did not come in last,” she said and this is what it meant for her.

I wrote a blog back in September about a 5k gone wrong. I had made a goal a few month before with my then boyfriend and we were to train and prep for the 5k, run it and then go to the wine festival that was happening in the hosting town. Well, I didn’t train, […]

A declaration to my future someone(s)

I’m not actively looking for a partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, significant other, sidekick or friend with benefits… let’s be COMPLETELY clear on that. Solitude is not only craved, but definitely a necessity right now. But, I have a lot to say about who I am and in the process of all I have gone through, realizing […]