As I continue my 7-part series on Amy Krouse Rosenthal’s 7 Notes on Life, I don’t think number 2 could have come at a better day or time.
Please see post on why/how I am exploring her Notes via yesterday’s post HERE.
BECKON THE LOVELY
“I tend to believe whatever you decide to look for you will find, whatever you beckon will eventually beckon you.” A.K.R.
For those of you who follow my social media or read my blog, you may have seen a wee bit of media attention towards a photography series my photog friend Julia Busato started called the #mannequinseries. This series of photos featured naked women (and some men) posing with a ‘typical’ sized store mannequin. I posed with the mannequin back in June as part of a gift to myself for my 40th birthday. I did it for several reasons, mainly to celebrate where I was in life – not my healthiest, not my fittest, not my thinnest, but definitely my most liberating time of my life. I was recently separated from a 21-year long relationship and finding myself again since 19. I wanted to do participate in the series in order to ‘bookmark’ how incredible scared and excited I was to start on my own.
For my blog post on that topic, you can go back here.
Amy’s second note on life is to BECKON THE LOVELY. This photo series went viral two days ago and in a matter of 36 hours, Julia was banned from Facebook and women from across the globe were reaching out commending her and the models who shared their bodies, stories and courage to produce art in a way that we all could connect.
Like, really viral!
My photo was one of the few photos that were removed – by Monday morning, it was gone as part of Facebook’s response. I was curious on how people were continuing to respond to the album and my picture in particular; I logged on Monday morning to shift through some of the hateful comments and those that included empowering and encouraging words.
Now, prior to this, I had a very good friend of mine private message me this… (I love you, and I know you wont be mad that I’m sharing this)”
I started reading comments and am so upset I had to stop. I was going to start replying to some of those awful comments about you but I had to stop myself because I am just so upset. I am crying and shaking from anger and sadness and I just can’t. I just want to tell you that you are beautiful inside and out and I really hope you know that every second of every day and that I love you… I am just so sorry there are nasty people and I hate them being so judgemental… I felt the need to stick up for you but started to get soooo upset and angry and then crying…I had to close it.
I love her for being so loyal to me! But, I quickly replied and said… “Their comments have NOTHING to do with me, but 100% of what they, themselves, are dealing with. Their opinion of me is really none of my concern.
Now – I will be truthful here and I did reply back to some of the the over 700+ comments, but only to point out that ignorance is a terrible trap to be in; not so much for my sake but for themselves. I stopped, though, much like my friend I knew there would be no positive result in defending what I did. In fact, the very idea of defending my actions defeats the point of doing what I did.
Back to this idea of Amy’s Note #2 on Life – Beckon the Lovely. I loved her quote in the above: “I tend to believe whatever you decide to look for you will find, whatever you beckon will eventually beckon you.”
Do you believe this? That whatever it is you decide to seek in life (positive or negative or even indifferent) is what you will attract? I could have been stuck in that rabbit-hole of an abyss and continue to reply and comment and hate on those who had very awful things to say about me – instead, I chose to go through each and every positive and uplifting comment and LIKE and respond where needed. I chose to beckon the lovely in what could have been a very ugly 36 hours.
What happened when I chose to do that? Well, I was positively charged and found a voice in the cause behind my photo. It was not super easy sharing my photo among my friends and family because, well, let’s be honest, I’m naked. But the principle became so much BIGGER than any of our photos in isolation. It was now a movement to push forward against censorship and the ability to express ourselves as we wanted. My day was exhausting, but I am so happy I chose to beckon the lovely.
What are you focusing on today – what’s going right or what’s going wrong? How a special someone’s words can make you feel amazing when you hear them, or the fact they are 4,000 km away and you can’t hug them? That you have to get up at 6:30am for work tomorrow or that you are gainfully employed?
I’m choosing to focus on the fact that I have a choice in a lot of things in my day and life is just funner if you just do shit (that makes you happy).
Dedicated to the one who has helped me beckon so much lovely in my life.